Uncommon gifts that would be treasured -peace
This article about uncommon gifts is contributed by #1 Amazon.com bestseller of "The Daughter-in-law rules", Sally Shields. In it she talks about better relationship with mother-in-law.
While, this seems applicable only to married women, I think it is a good read for anyone that seek to have better relationship with anyone. Now, giving people peace is one of the most uncommon gifts around, when is the last time you receive any?
So, after reading this beautiful story by Sally, I hope that you would not only be giving unique gifts for your love ones. You would begin to think about people that are your "normal friends", and start blessing them with uncommon gifts or unusual gifts the way you would splash on your love ones. **that means quit giving gifts under $10 lah...
Story of a Daughter-in-law, Li Li
A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got married & went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her constant criticisms. Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law's dictatorship any longer, so she went to see an herbalist and asked if he would give her some poison. Mr. Huang said, "Li-Li, every other day prepare some delicious meal and sprinkle some on her plate. And when she is dying, be careful to obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen."
In a few months' time, the mother-in-law's attitude towards Li-Li changed drastically, and they were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter. And Li-Li's husband was very happy to see the two most important women in his life finally getting along.
One day, Li-Li went to see the herbalist. "Dear Mr. Huang, please provide an antidote to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law, as she's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her as if she were my very own mother." Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head.
"Li-Li, you have nothing to worry about, as the herbs I provided were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude, but that has been all washed away by all the love and respect which you gave her."
The trick is to really and truly learn to appreciate your mother-in-law. And although there will always be problems because of a general lack of commonalities, goals and cultural pursuits, one just sort of has to give up that fantasy and let your MIL be herself.
We must try to always give our mothers-in-law the benefit of the doubt, and put our stubborn natures aside, generously sharing her son and the kids happily for the short time we have to be with her.
Creating increased feelings of warmth among in-laws helps foster familial ties, which creates pride and loyalty. The benefits of a caring family go beyond tangible outcomes and serve to strengthen our communities, provide for needs, and increase our sense of well-being.
To learn more about Sally, check out her http://www.thedilrules.com site. There, you can buy her book as some unique gifts to give away, and with plenty of information on her site, I am sure you would find good gifts ideas and maybe from it have more ideas on unique and unusual gifts...
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